On Worshiping Relationships
We all too often idolize these fictitious relationships we have in our minds. My fantasy revolves around a woman who holds firmly to the Doctrines of Grace and Lordship of Christ. On top of that, they will have a great, burning desire to make sure all of God’s creation hears the proclamation of the Cross. Physically this woman will be a little shorter than I, long straight hair, defined cheek bones, curvy, and a smile that comforts you that everything will be all right. The “cute” girl look melts me.
As you can see, I have built an idol. Now this doesn’t mean she doesn’t exist, but I’ve defined what I want out of a woman so specifically that I instantly run all new women I meet through these criteria. It’s almost as if I meet every woman and think first, “could this be the one?” It has impeded a lot of really good friendships from growing, because I was more worried about sizing her up to see if we were “compatible.” And the worst part is that I know it’s bad, and yet I still continue to do it with every single woman I meet (sometimes this deliberation goes on for quite a while).
The worst part is when I sacrifice my spiritual desires in a woman for the fleshly. I’ll say, “wow, she’s so hot! Hmmm… I can play missionary boyfriend.” Really bad news. But this has been a problem, because for some reason I’ve always been more interested in non-Christian women then believers. This puzzles me. I have these deep desires and needs to be with someone who has the same spiritual goals, but I play them down for some reason in Christian woman I do find. Maybe the flesh pulling at me?
But as I learn more about why I act the way I do, I am beginning to learn more about what I should want. I have found that a true believer that radiates the Spirit is far more beautiful then someone who might be more fleshly beautiful. And i don’t say this to be pretentious, I say it out of true conviction. A woman that true loves God and seeks to glorify Him in all she does is so sexy! Maxim’s got nothing on something of the women I know!
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.