Building A Healthy View of Prayer

I have admit­tedly, my whole life, had a low view of prayer. I admit­tedly, to this day, have a low view of prayer. It has started to become evi­dent about how impor­tant this facet is to one’s spir­i­tual endeavor in Christ, and it is also evi­dent when it is lack­ing in one’s life. I have started to feel at times as though I am just talk­ing to the wall. It is frus­trat­ing to do some­thing that you know is Bib­li­cal, but yet you are deriv­ing noth­ing from the endeavor. It is times like this that I see the dif­fer­ence between living reli­giously and living in the Spirit.

I sit down to a meal and pray in a generic fash­ion. It’s then as though I checked off that bullet. I pray cor­po­rately for the approval of men, and that is one of the things men­tioned lit­er­ally by Christ as some­thing to not do sev­eral times (cf. Mat 6:7). (My friend Jason Wing wrote a neat arti­cle on seek­ing the approval of men through cor­po­rate prayer.) I admit­tedly rarely pray with the inten­tional thought of, “how can I glo­rify my Father during this time?”

When I present the Bib­li­cal basis of mis­sions, I often gloss over prayer in the five ways you can imple­ment a world Chris­t­ian lifestyle into your life (I means “missions minded” not “worldly minded”). There is one pas­sage that strikes the cord for me as to how God views prayer and our role in doing it. Jesus exem­pli­fies both His love and com­pas­sion and how prayer is involved in the out­pour­ing of those char­ac­ter­is­tics. If this doesn’t con­vict you on your prayer life, I don’t know what will!

Jesus was going through all the cities and vil­lages, teach­ing in their syn­a­gogues and pro­claim­ing the gospel of the king­dom, and heal­ing every kind of dis­ease and every kind of sick­ness. Seeing the people, He felt com­pas­sion for them, because they were dis­tressed and dispir­ited like sheep with­out a shep­herd. Then He said to His dis­ci­ples, “The har­vest is plen­ti­ful, but the work­ers are few. “Therefore beseech the Lord of the har­vest to send out work­ers into His harvest.”
Matthew 9:35-38

I came upon my lower view of prayer a lot from my study both in God’s immutabil­ity and sov­er­eignty. Chris­tians who hold to a reformed under­stand­ing of pre­des­ti­na­tion see the doc­trine as being all inclu­sive. That means, that pre­des­ti­na­tion doesn’t simply refer to elec­tion but also every­thing around seeing the elec­tion man­i­fest itself (meta­phys­i­cal deter­min­ism). When I debated the Open The­ists who thought strongly that prayer could in fact change God’s mind by con­tort­ing pas­sages such as Moses’ inter­ces­sion for Israel in Exodus 32, I became more and more dis­heart­ened at the idea that prayer doesn’t change God’s mind.

Many Chris­tians have strug­gled with the ques­tion, “if God’s unchang­ing and every­thing is set, why should I bother to ask Him for anything.” And as I myself think about it I can empathize more and more with this ques­tion. I often tell people who bring up this ques­tion that pray­ing is simply the act of obe­di­ence and some­thing we have the priv­i­lege to do. I try and convey the thought that if you’re wor­ried about God chang­ing for you then you have your desires in the wrong place. Jesus even under­stood this idea. Despite His oncom­ing suf­fer­ing, He still asked His Father to relieve Him of the suffering.

Then Jesus came with them to a place called Geth­se­mane, and said to His dis­ci­ples, “Sit here while I go over there and pray.” And He took with Him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, and began to be grieved and dis­tressed. Then He said to them, “My soul is deeply grieved, to the point of death; remain here and keep watch with Me.” And He went a little beyond them, and fell on His face and prayed, saying, “My Father, if it is pos­si­ble, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as You will.”
Matthew 26:36-39

This is a pow­er­ful pas­sage, because we see Jesus’ human nature act out of true fear and dis­tress. But what is inter­est­ing is that even in His fear He did not sin (1 Pet 1:21-22). He under­stood that His request would not be met, and He exem­pli­fied His under­stand­ing of His nec­es­sary sub­mis­sion to accom­plish redemp­tion when He said, “…yet not as I will, but as you will.” He rein­forces this by saying shortly after the first prayer:

He went away again a second time and prayed, saying, “My Father, if this cannot pass away unless I drink it, Your will be done.”
Matthew 26:42

I think I, and all of us, can learn much from Jesus’ exam­ple in this pas­sage. I need to remem­ber that prayer at first should be about our com­plete sub­mis­sion to God. It is in this under­stand­ing He grants under­stand­ing of what must take place for His Name (Mat 6:9; cf. Luk 11:12). It is time for me to build a healthy view of prayer. I don’t know much, but I do know (on yes, expe­ri­en­tial evi­dence) that when we turn to Him and delight in His Name and pur­pose—He pro­vides com­fort and rest.

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8 total comments, leave your comment.
  1. Prayer is a dif­fi­cult sub­ject to think about the­o­log­i­cally. The Bible seems to me to teach that God has planned every­thing in this world before time and yet it also teaches that God responds to our prayers. (In other words, our prayers in some way are fac­tored into His plan). I think that here Molin­ism comes in and fits these two ideas together nicely. Per­son­ally, my con­fi­dence in prayer and God’s prov­i­dence have been bol­stered by the doc­trine of middle knowl­edge.

  2. I appre­ci­ate your thoughts Daniel. I per­son­ally don’t want to turn this into a debate on Middle Knowl­edge (although it’d be fun) so we’ll let it be for now.

    There is definetly an aspect Bib­li­cally that God does respond to prayer. Then you get your mind wrapped around did He plan to rspond to the request and so on.

  3. Hey,

    Glad to see some­one be open about this. I actu­ally spoke with my pastor at length about it after sunday’s ser­vice.

    PsP

  4. Simply the act of obe­di­ence and some­thing we have the priv­i­lege to do

    Like Wit­ness­ing? ~.^

    Anyway, I think that prayer is one of the things that most draws me to God. I too have been in that place where it feels like my prayers aren’t making it through the ceil­ing — or worse that they’re bounc­ing off and hit­ting me in the face.

    Then you get your mind wrapped around did He plan to rspond to the request

    Why does that require wrap­ping your mind around? It makes per­fect sense to me. The closer you are to God, the more your will and his will align, slowly you’ll start to pray for his desires as if they were your own. :) Like­wise, God with­olds our desires from us that are harm­ful, because he knows what is best for us.

    In fact, prayer is super-​basic, take a look at this:

    Romans 8:26-27 In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weak­ness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit him­self inter­cedes for us with groans that words cannot express. 27 And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit inter­cedes for the saints in accor­dance with God’s will.

    I think that that verse is a tough one to let sink in. Because although we are pray­ing from our own hearts, we are also pray­ing — through the Spirit — from the heart of God. :)

    Like­wise here:

    Jude 1:20 But you, dear friends, build your­selves up in your most holy faith and pray in the Holy Spirit.

    I’ve often seen those pas­sages used to defend speak­ing in tounges. As a result, I think some­times people refuse to touch on their intrin­sic mean­ing because they’re too busy focus­ing on whether or not a cer­tain doc­tri­nal quib­ble is right or wrong.

    To me, prayer is easy, because really it’s just trust­ing God. When you want to be held account­able to some­one for some­thing — you have to talk to them about it. In addi­tion, God is glo­ri­fied through answered prayer. If some­one you knew was mirac­u­lously healed and you hadn’t been pray­ing for them — yes, the hand of God was in it BUT, who recieves the Glory? If you can say to some­one “I PRAYED for a mirac­u­lous heal­ing and God healed them!” then the glory rests where it belongs.

    But this is just asking-for-things prayer. :) I like to pray in wor­ship better. I’ve never prayed “I love you Jesus” and felt THAT hit the wall ;D

  5. Jessica Stoehr
    Dec 7th 2005

    Hey! Great Chris!! I don’t know what I think about pre­des­ti­na­tion yet, but wow, prayer is impor­tant no matter what you think!

  6. Well, now that I’m all lean­ing Calvin­ist because of your influ­ence, I have dis­cov­ered the same strug­gle in my life. Darn you. ;)

    Total deprav­ity.

    Now friend me! I just got a xanga! What?

  7. Man, who is NOT inter­ested in post-​modern spir­i­tu­al­ity?
    And yes, I do like the emerg­ing church. Or at least what I’ve expe­ri­enced of it, which has helped me to grow enor­mously this semes­ter.

  8. Yeah! Lord will­ing, I’ll arrive the day after Christ­mas to spend a few days with my Grand­par­ents, and then stay with the IT folks until Jan­u­ary 4th. I’m look­ing for­ward to it. I’ll at least see Dan, Erin, and Kris­ten–but hope­fully others.
    What brought you there?

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