Finding “The One”

I’ve been think­ing recently of how one knows when he/she has found “The One” they are to spend the rest of their lives with. After ask­ing many people—some mar­ried, some not—I came to a con­clu­sion (none of them gave me this answer). I saw as I asked, espe­cially unre­gen­er­ated folk, that their view of mar­riage was tem­po­ral and earthly and not eter­nal. After thought and read­ing the Scrip­tures I have decided on the fol­low­ing definition.

“The One” (n.)
You will serve the King­dom bet­ter with this indi­vid­ual than alone.

In other words, mar­riage is one that should remain King­dom minded (duh…Eph 5), but the impor­tant empha­sis of the rela­tion­ship is that you both keep the min­istry in mind thereby attempt­ing to avoid (as best as pos­si­ble) the “inter­ests being divided” (1 Cor 7). I wrote about this a while back in the post: What About Obe­di­ent Mar­riage? Since then the prac­ti­cal truth of those ear­lier con­vic­tions is com­ing to light.

Now of course friend­ship, com­pat­i­bil­ity, sim­i­lar the­o­log­i­cal world­view, and other con­sid­er­a­tions play into this deci­sion; but I feel com­fort­able with that def­i­n­i­tion at a “bare bones” def­i­n­i­tion of “The One.” I want to keep work­ing on the word­ing of that def­i­n­i­tion so any thoughts are always welcome.